When your loved one has been recently diagnosed with dementia, it leaves the spouse/caregiver at a loss what to do to adequately provide the proper care. I did not know if the multitude of emotions I was feeling was 'normal' and I didn't know how or where to express my concerns. Nobody prepares us for these events, and suddenly we are in a position to take care of a spouse with an illness we don't completely understand.

The caregiver is put in a difficult position of needing to handle their spouse without any knowledge of how. So many emotions, fears, questions, and insecurities were swirling in my head. What was the correct next step to take after his diagnosis? Who could I talk to about this when I have no family? How was I able on my own to make such a life-changing decision regarding assisted care for my husband? I needed someone who would listen to me and allow me to express my concerns, worries, and fears and not be judgmental. I needed someone who would let me ask the same questions over and over, vent over and over, repeat myself over and over, yet always be sympathetic, kind, and helpful.

I found such a person in Christine Griner. I hoped that when I would call in to check on my husband she would be the one who answered the phone. This is not to suggest that the other nurses were not helpful; they absolutely were. There was something special about Christine, though, that made me feel like I was making the right decision, that she understood all the circumstances surrounding my situation, and that it was going to be alright. Christine was my 'shoulder to cry on' in the most desperate moment in my life. Too often the spouse or family is not given the support they need when their loved one is faced with a terrible illness. The focus tends to be completely on the patient but the family needs help, too. Christine understands that and she made a very difficult time for me more bearable.

I am forever grateful for this woman that I never met in person, but whose voice and words gave me more comfort than I can adequately express. I am forever grateful and honored to nominate Christine Griner for The DAISY Award.